The relationship line in the Destiny Matrix

Which arcana appear here

Share of dates from 1940 to 2010 with the arcanum in this position

• 1The Magician never
• 2The High Priestess never
• 3The Empress 12.3%
• 4The Emperor 9%
• 5The Hierophant 17.2%
• 6The Lovers 25.8%
• 7The Chariot 16.3%
• 8Justice 13.4%
• 9The Hermit 22.8%
• 10Wheel of Fortune 10.4%
• 11Strength 9.4%
• 12The Hanged Man 19.2%
• 13Death 1.9%
• 14Temperance 3.1%
• 15The Devil 26.6%
• 16The Tower 3.5%
• 17The Star 6.1%
• 18The Moon 28.9%
• 19The Sun 8.9%
• 20Judgement 10.6%
• 21The World 23.8%
• 22The Fool 11.8%

Every arcanum in this position

• 3

  The Empress

  In relationships, The Empress brings warmth, physical closeness and a wish to look after someone. You most likely make a home wherever you live together and remember the small things about the person you love. Trouble appears when care becomes overprotection: the partner turns into a child, and you into a tired mom or dad. Equality helps, where both people take care of each other. It feels good when someone looks after you, too.

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• 4

  The Emperor

  In relationships, The Emperor offers reliability: people can count on you in daily life, with money, in hard situations. There is also a tendency to steer your partner and decide for two. Sometimes those close to you lack not support but tenderness and room for their own choices. Relationships grow stronger when boundaries are set together, not dictated. A question often brings people closer than an explanation. Tenderness here is not weakness.

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• 5

  The Hierophant

  In relationships, The Hierophant looks for shared values. It probably matters to you that a partner shares your views on family, money and raising children. A couple's traditions, its own rituals and holidays mean a lot. Difficulty arises when one person teaches the other how to live. Relationships hold up better when both learn from each other and can argue without taking offense. Respect for differences counts here as much as shared views.

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• 6

  The Lovers

  Here The Lovers are right at home. Relationships are probably one of the most important topics for you, and you need closeness in which you can be yourself. You know how to fall in love and make others fall for you, but you may hesitate between options for a long time or stay out of pity where the joy is gone. Mature relationships here rest on a conscious choice that both people make, every day.

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• 7

  The Chariot

  In relationships, The Chariot looks for a partner to move in the same direction with. Shared goals, trips and projects bring you closest. The difficulty is that you may lead the couple without asking whether the other person wants to go there too. Another trap is getting so absorbed in work that little time is left for loved ones. A plan made together, with room for rest, helps.

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• 8

  Justice

  In relationships, Justice looks for a partnership of equals. It probably matters to you that both people's contribution is visible: in daily life, with money, in attention. Open conversations and honest agreements give you peace. Difficulty arises when the relationship turns into bookkeeping of who owes whom. Closeness is not always measured on scales. Sometimes it rests on generosity, and generosity without keeping score can be fair too.

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• 9

  The Hermit

  In relationships, The Hermit needs a partner who respects personal space. You probably need time for yourself even in a happy couple. Closeness builds slowly, through trust and long conversations. The difficulty is that you may withdraw silently, and your partner may read it as coldness. It helps to simply give a heads up: I need an evening alone, it is not about you.

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• 10

  Wheel of Fortune

  In relationships, Wheel of Fortune brings bright encounters and unexpected turns. You probably fall in love quickly, and important people often appear by chance. The difficulty is that after the first wave things may get boring. Relationships last longer when there is movement in them: trips together, new projects, changes the couple goes through side by side. Routine is better diluted than endured.

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• 11

  Strength

  In relationships, Strength brings passion and a wish to protect. You are most likely devoted and reliable, but you may get jealous or insist that everything goes your way. Emotions run high on both sides in such a couple. The relationship holds when energy goes into shared projects and arguments are settled through talk, without pressure or a contest over who is stronger.

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• 12

  The Hanged Man

  In relationships, The Hanged Man tends to give more than it gets. You may adjust to a partner for a long time and hope they will guess what you need on their own. At its best this is deep devotion and the ability to see someone close to you without illusions. Out of balance, silent resentments appear. One simple thing helps: say out loud what does not suit you before it piles up.

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• 13

  Death

  In relationships, Death brings intensity. You and a partner may go through several crises and come out of each one changed, or part honestly when the story has run its course. The imbalance shows up as jealousy, control, or worry about losing someone. It helps to accept that relationships change too, and to agree on new rules instead of holding on to old ones. Closeness after a crisis often turns out deeper than it was before.

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• 14

  Temperance

  In relationships, Temperance brings softness and a talent for reaching agreement. You may be the partner who makes life quiet and reliable. The risk is that, for the sake of peace, you put off talking about what bothers you, and dissatisfaction builds up. A regular honest conversation helps, even when everything seems fine. Then the calm is real rather than forced.

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• 15

  The Devil

  In relationships, The Devil brings passion and strong attraction. You may fall for someone vividly and for a long time. At its best, this is physical closeness and trust in which both people are free. Out of balance, it shows up as jealousy, control, or a relationship you want to leave but cannot. An honest answer to what keeps you next to this person, feeling or habit and worry, counts for a lot here.

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• 16

  The Tower

  In relationships, The Tower can bring stormy beginnings and loud quarrels. You are honest, but sometimes too sharp, and your words hurt more than you meant them to. At its best, a relationship is built like a house: gradually, with honest talk about the hard things. Irritation voiced right away rarely builds to an explosion. After an honest fight, you know how to make up just as sincerely.

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• 17

  The Star

  In relationships, The Star looks for admiration. It matters to you that a partner sees you and is glad about your successes. At its best, this is a bond where each person inspires the other. Out of balance, it looks like jealousy over someone else's attention, or an idealized partner who collides with reality. A real person is always a bit different from the picture you had in mind. You do well with a partner who does not compete with your light but shines alongside it.

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• 18

  The Moon

  In relationships, The Moon brings romance and deep emotional closeness. You sense your partner finely, but you can also invent what is not there: jealousy of imaginary rivals, reading between lines that are blank. A simple question often clears up more doubt than silent conclusions do. Honesty on both sides matters more here than passion. It is easier for your partner when they know that your silence is sometimes just silence, not cooling off.

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• 19

  The Sun

  In relationships, The Sun brings warmth, generosity, and lightness. You may be the partner who makes life fun and bright. The risk is that sharing attention is hard for you, and a partner may feel pushed into the background. What helps is curiosity about the other person, the ability to listen, and being as genuinely glad about their successes as about your own.

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• 20

  Judgement

  In relationships, Judgement brings seriousness and a wish to build a strong family. How a partner treats your relatives may matter a lot to you. The risk is projecting your parents' patterns onto a partner or evaluating them all the time. It helps to notice when you are reacting to the person beside you and when to an old family story. Traditions you create together become a support over time.

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• 21

  The World

  In relationships, The World looks for space and a shared horizon. You may enjoy a partner you can travel with, learn with, and discover new things with. The risk is that in a tight frame you start to feel stifled or want to run. What helps is freedom inside the relationship: each person with their own interests, plus shared plans for two. A few days apart are sometimes better for both of you than constant closeness.

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• 22

  The Fool

  In relationships, The Fool brings lightness, play, and spontaneity. You are fun to be with and know how to surprise. The risk is a fear of commitment: you may want to run as soon as things get serious. It helps to tell your partner honestly how much freedom you need and check whether that works for both of you. A partner who enjoys your spontaneity rather than being alarmed by it suits you. Shared adventures hold this kind of relationship together better than a schedule.

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